A couple of weeks ago a close friend of mine
experienced a tragedy that shook me to my
core. As I cried my tears and sifted through
my emotions I was drawn inward for  answers.
It's at times like these that we often look
inward and ask hard questions.

   As I searched for my answers and focused

on what really mattered to me, it became

apparent the profound effect this woman, my

friend, has had on me. Her character, strength,

and integrity influenced and helped shape who I
am as a woman today. She has modeled great
parenting, been a staunch supporter,
especially when I most doubted myself,
taught me the freedom of non-judgement, and
most important unconditional love. I always
know that Sandy will tell me what needs to
be said, not simply what I wish to hear. I
value that gift, and yes it is a true gift,
above all. Yet, I could not ever remember
telling her this.

 

  Why is it we are so quick to speak up when
something is wrong, yet when something is
right we simply let it be?  I know many who
have a daily gratitude practice but, how
often is that gratitude openly expressed?
Why do wee feel the need to keep quiet about
it? What a beautiful way to create moments
of joy, simple, yet highly effective.

 

  There is a management theory that rests on
the premise that if you catch employees
doing something right and acknowledge it
immediately, you will encourage more of the
same. You will even find the same advice in
parenting books.

  I believe we all inherently know this, yet

we are hesitant to put ourselves in that

vulnerable position. The chattering in your

mind says "they'll think I'm weird, mushy,

soft, crazy, or whatever your favorite adjective",

but in our hearts, our spirit longs to express this.

It really is a win-win situation; you're honoring
spirit in yourself and the other person. So
often we are unaware of how our actions and
energy impacts others and it can feel like
it really dozen't matter, when in fact it
matters a great deal. Let's start sharing
how much we matter to one another.

 

  Despite the best of intentions, things pop
up and life moves forward, and it's all too
easy to forget. I'm suggesting that right
now, every person reading this, take the
time to call or write someone who has had a
positive impact on your life and let them
know. If you feel a bit uneasy, take a deep
breath and trust. (or just tell them your
coach made you do it!)

I would love to hear your thoughts you can

email them to me at coach@pathwayscoach.com